Simple Ways to Prepare for Mediation

Going to mediation can feel daunting, especially if it’s been a while since you’ve spoken to the other party. It’s natural to feel a bit anxious when you’re unsure what to expect. This guide offers easy steps to help you prepare mentally, emotionally, and practically, so you feel ready for the conversation and reduce stress along the way.

Let's make a checklist for mediation!

Before the Mediation

1. Take the Day Off

   • If possible, schedule the day of mediation without other commitments. This will give you time to focus on the process without distraction and help you process the conversation afterward. It also provides time to relax and recover. You may be exhausted afterwards and that is normal.

   
   

2. Phone a Friend

   • Talking things through with a supportive friend or family member can relieve stress. You may want to ask a friend to be available by phone during the mediation in case you need some extra support. Sometimes, knowing you have someone in your corner can help ease anxiety and clear your mind. 

   
   

3. Plan Your Logistics

   • If In-Person: Plan for transportation, parking, and any additional travel time. Make sure you know the route and have everything you need to avoid last-minute stress.

   • If Virtual: Download any required software in advance, check your internet connection, and ensure your audio and video work. Using technology can be anxiety producing, so reducing the chances of a technical hiccup beforehand can help you focus on the conversation.

     
     

4. Reflect on What You Want and Need

   • Take time to reflect on why you’re going to mediation, how the conflict has affected you, and what you hope to achieve. Make a short list of key points you want to discuss, outcomes you hope for, and questions you might want to ask. 

   • Think through your must-haves and nice-to-haves. Consider any personal boundaries you want to keep. Knowing what is essential for you (and what’s flexible) can help you stay focused and avoid being caught off guard.

   • This blog post Deciding on Mediation: Key Questions to Consider has a lot of questions to contemplate as you prepare.

     
     

5. Practice Active Listening Techniques

   • A big part of mediation is listening. Practice active listening techniques with friends and family, like summarizing what you heard to ensure you understand the other person’s point of view. This can lead to a more constructive conversation and reduce defensiveness on both sides.

On the Day of Mediation

During Mediation

After Mediation

Time to Exhale

By following these steps, you’ll be more prepared to go into mediation with a calm, positive mindset. Taking these actions can not only reduce stress but also help you get the most out of the process. Remember, mediation is about building solutions and understanding – and with a little preparation, you can approach it with confidence.